Advice

Common Mistakes Brides Make: How To Avoid Them

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1. The biggest error that I see involves the budget for the wedding, and not having a realistic picture of what can be accomplished with the funds on hand. It’s not the most romantic (or fun) part of the planning process, but paying off the expenses after the fact isn’t much fun either. We’ve all heard the expression “champagne taste on a beer budget”, and while it may not be possible to host a lavish reception for ALL of your friends and relatives, it is possible to treat a few of them lavishly, or all of them on a lesser scale of elegance.

2. Another pitfall that many brides step into is when they don’t realize how much time it will take to actually make all of the arrangements. It’s been said that putting a wedding and reception together can become a 2nd full time job. Don’t be overwhelmed. Get started early (right after you’ve figured out that pesky budget) and keep at the “to do” list so that you don’t turn into Bridezilla as the day draws near.

3. While it may seem efficient to do all of your research on line and hire vendors after checking their websites, it’s a much better idea to interview them in person and establish a rapport ahead of time.

4. Last, but far from least—Don’t let the plans become all you talk about with your girlfriends and your groom. Schedule times when wedding business needs to be done AND schedule times when matrimony discussions are strictly off limits. You’ll be glad you did.

Newlywed Professional Planners

I had a call the other day from a gal who had been married recently and was now in the process of planning and coordinating a wedding for someone else since she supposedly now “knew the ropes”.

This call was two weeks before the wedding and the wedding planner wannabe realized that she was in way over her head. It’s one thing to find services and things that are “just right” for your own big day, but quite a different ball game when you’re making selections for a different person

Just because someone has planned one wedding doesn’t mean that they have the experience and expertise to handle unexpected situations that may come up. What will happen if the flowers are accidentally delivered to the wrong church? What if the photographer gets lost before he gets to the wonderful “out of the way” venue you’ve chosen for your reception?

What will the wannabe planner do when the caterers leave dirty dishes behind for the rental company to deal with? All of these things (and many more) have actually happened. A professional wedding planner will be able to handle all of these situations without even letting you become aware of them until the problems have been solved.

Back to the beginning of the story—The newlywed bridal planner decided that it would be better for everyone if she hired me to do the job and gave my service to the other bride as a wedding gift. It turned out to be a lovely wedding!